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  • babbeecc
    on Jul 03 04:44 PM
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    why do people assume right off their hand thinking that girls/guys are bisexual just looking at them?? right sometime outta the blue people think I'm bisexual and I'll be like ahahah no but I'm only into the opposite sex cause that's just me but it's like okay!! why don't you ask before you start judging somebody...but my friends say that because most pretty people are bisexual idk why but thats her reply...but what do you think??
  • MonteySilver member
    on Jul 03 07:45 PM
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    I think that people shouldn't judge and make assumptions, and also whether you are heterosexual, bisexual or gay, is no one's business but your own, unless you choose no share it.
    • babbeecc
      on Jul 03 09:15 PM
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      lol right I agree with you and it's like for real? cause I get that all the time which I'm like so str8 but you know some people might just be curious thats what I think or before they make a move
      • Vex DarklySilver member
        on Jul 05 12:42 AM
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        That is quite possible. Perhaps it is flattery, in an odd form. It shows that they are showing an interest in your sexuality, which means that they likely find you attractive
        It's still irritating that people make assumptions, but hey, there's always a positive pespective to be found
        • babbeecc
          on Jul 05 01:05 AM
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          lol ahahah I like what you have to say about this which I think it's true...but why not just be str8 forward and get down to the point and stop playing games.....but yes I totally agree with you.... idk if I'm attractive aha I must say I'm in the average category not like most girls they're beautiful with nice body and nice skin....lol
          • Vex DarklySilver member
            on Jul 05 01:05 AM
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            Haha, well, not many people are very good at being straight to the point about these things, so instead they just express a general interest in your sexuality
  • Houbou
    on Jul 04 08:14 PM
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    I've had this problem too. Like why? and how people can come to that assumption. several people did ask me whether I'm bi, online as well as in school It made me laugh every time.  Maybe it's because I don't have a boy friend. But that's because I don't want a bf. It doesn't have to mean that I'm bi! And I do not have feelings for ones in my own sex. It nearly feels like incest to me. Not that I'm against bisexuals or anything.
    • babbeecc
      on Jul 05 01:08 AM
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      ahahahah lmaol....I know what you mean like when me and my friend go to the club they think we're bi cause we dance together and didn't want to dance with them guys they'll be like yal bi? which is funny cause we'll laugh and go are way about it ignoring them lol....so we usually hit the gay club cause at least they don't hit on you but just dance and have fun lol and why is that so?? you don't want to date yet??
      • Houbou
        on Jul 05 08:10 PM
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        I haven't found the right person yet. I do know really good people, but when you move a step forward from friendship, they expect me to text them all the time or pressure me to buy a phone (I don't have a phone and I don't want one ) And they want to talk all the time. send them too many pictures all the time. This is alright, but too much pressure for me. And when a couple of hours go by without a word from me, they'd be like "wtf? where'd you go?" And this person who had been great with me for years on as friends is like "wtf" with me all of a sudden.
        I'm not ready yet for all that pressure, you know. Maybe later, when I find my sort of a person who can go on with one call per day and one photo per month
        • babbeecc
          on Jul 05 11:45 PM
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          lmaol....thats the way to do it....but everybody relationship start like that and couple of years later it'll cool down...and I understand what you mean cause for us in the beginning it was like that not so more anymore lol which is cool cause I get some me time...but I do love and miss that attention he us to give me...I guess we're just together to much I meant we're together 24/7 not that it's a problem but we kind of run out of things to ask eachother or talk about but I still love being around him don't get me wrong on that...ahahah it's cute but sometime we just need to like get out and hangout with our friends
        • MonteySilver member
          on Jul 06 06:21 PM
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          One day you might find the person you want to text and phone all the time!
        • Lady Dildicorn
          on Feb 15 01:06 PM
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          You're  smart to take things at your own pace and not be pressured into being coupled.  I hope my nieces show this much sense when they are old enough.
      • Lady Dildicorn
        on Feb 15 01:04 PM
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        I'm not really into dancing and clubs, but isn't it normal for girls to dance together?  Whenever I go out, thee are always groups of straight girls dancing with each other and you can tell it's more about having fun with friends than anything sexual.
        • babbeecc
          on Feb 24 01:39 AM
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          yes I agree...lots of girls dance together its natural but you can tell if she's bi or not I meant its not that hard..and alot of girls tend to dance together because they don't want grabby guys to be around them and they feel uncomfy you know
        • Houbou
          on Feb 28 08:58 AM
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          Nearly all the girls dance together in my country. Not because they are bi. But because we have to keep some distance with boys in our culture. It would be a bigger problem if a girl's seen dancing with a boy.
  • I n k l i n g
    on Jul 05 12:06 AM
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    Why do some folks assume right away
    That I'm either bisexual or gay?
    Is it coz I watch Ellen
    And I'm always tellin'
    My friends that I think she's okay?

    Is it coz I don't mind when a fairy
    Holds hands with his buddy who's hairy?
    Or coz I sang along
    To that popular song,
    "I Kissed a Girl' by Katie Perry?

  • Soulbird
    on Jul 05 06:14 PM
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    Haters gon hate.
  • Elyse A.
    on Jul 13 12:37 PM
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    if i had 1 $ for every time someone called me bisexual or a lesbian i would be richer than oprah winfrey...just if you know were you stand then thats all that matters and people judge because they have nothing else to do and its in their nature
    • babbeecc
      on Jul 13 03:54 PM
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      I agree...and exactly.....that's what I do....just ignored and laugh my way and be like it doesn't bug me but it will bug me if my dude start to think I'm bi...cause he want me all to himself and I have no problem with giving him my all....I just don't want him to start thinking cause people are assuming lol
      • Elyse A.
        on Jul 13 03:59 PM
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        sit him down and explain the situation and he'll  understand thats it worked for me
        • babbeecc
          on Jul 13 04:06 PM
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          I know I do trust me and he believe me but sometimes it's like why are people saying it and I'll be like it's okay let them talk cause If I was I wouldn't be with just you lol
  • RucaSilver member
    on Aug 04 10:36 AM
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    Ill probably get a lot of people disagreeing with me, but I believe that people are either straight or gay, and that bi-sexuality is about being open and curious if you happen to come across someone you are attracted to, regardless of gender. I believe that everyone can be attracted to someone of the same sex, if they meet the right person. I am straight, but i have known a woman that i was very attracted to sexually. It doesnt make me any less straight, just an experience richer. You people talk about being judged and people hating on you. Why would you percieve someone thinking that you are bi as a judgement?
    • babbeecc
      on Aug 13 09:47 PM
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      well see...I get where you're coming from and I totally agree and I don't have anything against it at all I'm like okay I guess I am lol
      • RucaSilver member
        on Aug 14 08:35 AM
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        I think we all are lol
        • babbeecc
          on Aug 14 05:32 PM
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          amen...lol ahahah that's sort of true
          • RucaSilver member
            on Aug 15 08:29 AM
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            Lol i think it is. A lot may never know, but if the right person comes along i think all can get curious, and should try it if given the chance
    • Lady Dildicorn
      on Feb 15 01:10 PM
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      There's been research that shows sexuality occurs on a spectrum, and that people can be exclusively gay or straight or somewhere in between with varying degrees of attraction to the same or opposite sex.  I think people who are more attracted to personality rather than gender go by the label "pansexual" these days.   So many different labels.
  • K
    Werewolf KillerGold member
    on Aug 04 05:15 PM
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    you  have good points here and I think you should all read my poems Just because iam a bisexual , which Iam amd hate crimes don't give them your time.
    Andd please read profile for you will find  no lies for iam bi truly
  • poetryalitySilver member
    on Aug 05 11:37 AM
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    My eldest son is heterosexual but he gets hit on by men all the time (women too).  He has been married for 6 years and has a five year old daughter (my beautiful eldest granddaughter).  He doesn't get offended now where he once did.  He used to take the mistaken identity as degradation but now he take sit as a compliment. 

    • babbeecc
      on Aug 13 09:45 PM
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      that's good for him and I'm starting to feel the same cause it doesn't bother me at all
    • IronFist
      on Aug 14 01:31 AM
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      Man, the closest I've ever come to anything like this is a dog trying to hump my leg.
    • Lady Dildicorn
      on Feb 15 01:12 PM
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      That's great to hear.  It is quite a compliment!  Let's hope more people become as secure in themselves as your son is.
  • yogi bearr aSilver member
    on Aug 05 01:32 PM
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    Hell it gets confusing  -- this is how I get it  -- First -- our environment helps to dictate our sexual orientation. And you never know wot can hit you round the corner life is  odd. Don't get me wrong I am vry respectful to you defining your self.

    But the thing I av learned is tht the person is not actually talking about you. Wot they are doing is projecting their process of their life abt wot they are going through, on to you.

    Your a woman and men enjoy the idea of women sleeping with women -- So -- it could be tht they flirting -- no matter wot sex said it. 

    But also wot amazes me  -- is the freedom to even av the conversation is relative new.

  • yogi bearr aSilver member
    on Aug 13 10:26 PM
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    Some body is bull shitting you -- looks has nothing to do with it --- By nature all are bi - sexual. But conditioning and choice and genetics deliver designation. In a world where people are much freer to express interests - in sexual orientation - people jst ask - when peps ask it may not actually be you there defining - but them selves. So wot they teling you is abt them. Not you - tht is why you better make sure you is with it - or you end up living there lives --- and not your -- Especially - if you think there is such a ting as beauti ---- Be you real and whole  --- and plain confident  - not make up power dress tht gives you false confidence - and tht does not mean you don't dress good - it just means u don't rely on compliments - be cos u confident.
    • babbeecc
      on Aug 13 10:33 PM
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      thanks I feel you on that...thats the reason why I stay original cause fake stuff and make-up doesn't define me...but I know exactly what you mean
  • Pixel Weed
    on Aug 13 11:28 PM
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    Maybe they're just hoping.
  • damiho
    on Aug 14 06:05 PM
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    who gives a rat's arse what people think one way or the other?
    just be

    cheers
    d
    • babbeecc
      on Aug 14 10:20 PM
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      cheers to that...I'm actually starting to not care cause it doesn't bother me anymore..but thanks
      • damiho
        on Aug 15 02:01 AM
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        good for you.
        it's liberating when you accept you're not responsible for what, or how other people think...their thoughts/ perceptions/ judgments are their own...let them deal with it.

        cheers
        d
        • babbeecc
          on Aug 15 03:20 PM
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          yup....got you...I honestly don't care anymore cause the people that know me best are in my life so nobody else should matter right
  • ruby1991
    on Aug 20 09:40 AM
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    i have always had this problem everyone thinks i am straight lol. bout how can you judge a person sexuality just by the clothes they wear or the way they talk? and everytime i tell someone that i am bi they are like how so you dont look it?
    it just shows you how much people are still close minded
    • babbeecc
      on Aug 20 03:25 PM
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      right? lol haha that's crazy people these day make no sense and I know what you mean but it's okay cause their opinion doesn't matter...it's what make you happy that matter most..
  • Alendar
    on Aug 21 02:58 PM
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    Buy sexual? I comparison shop.
  • Ciarli
    on Feb 15 12:09 PM
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    bisexual or dual core, is a madness if you dont have the other aspects of the character ready to accept this transformation.
  • Lady Dildicorn
    on Feb 15 01:00 PM
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    I think your friend is very silly to make such a ridiculous assumption.
  • Elrenia
    on Feb 16 09:55 AM
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    I am; I only want it every other week.
  • Immortal ObscurityGold member
    on Feb 17 11:22 PM
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    doesn't matter what anyone else thinks~ if *you* are comfortable identifying as straight/gay/bi/something, that's fine. but don't let anyone else's opinions influence your choice.

    i am straight, and a friend once told me that "all women are innately bisexual"; obviously, i'm not, so i thought it was a load of crap and called her out. too often, people make blind judgments about others without knowing them... and, really, it's none of their business.

  • john stratton
    on Apr 07 10:10 AM
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    Phew!
    I read 3 and am now exhausted.
  • Expatriate
    on Apr 07 03:40 PM
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    I don't know anything about bisexuality.  I only know that if reincarnation is true and I come back as a woman, I'm gonna be a lesbian.
  • Unquoted
    on Apr 10 03:36 AM
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    Seems stupid to get worked up over being mistaken as a bisexual

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