I've matured now and I've also thought it over endless times in my head. I see the flaw. The flaw is that I'm too busy caring, worrying, and dying for you that I forget about myself. I've said before that love is the most selfless act one can do, but there's no telling how long that lasts. However, do not get jump to conclusions because love is not a battle between selflessness and selfishness. Let me tell you what love is.
In a time of love, there's no such thing as just receiving. A person in a relationship has to both give and receive love. If one person is giving all the love and the person on the other end does not want to receive it, then that is not love. If one person does not give any love at all, then that is most certainly not love either. There are many possibilities for this, but this is not about math so we won't worry about all of them as long as you have the general concept of it. Hence, a person who is selfless when they give a lot of love and is selfish when they receive a lot of love, is having no problem understanding what love is. The more love you desire, the more love you will give. Proving that selfishness and selflessness go hand in hand in a relationship, the concept of how love is the most selfless act will be explained.
When a person is in love, they find themselves doing insane things. When a person is in love, the other person's happiness is top priority. Anything should and will be done to secure their happiness. Many call these "acts of love." There are many examples for this as well. The best example, I think, is the one where the ultimate sacrifice is made. As an "act of love" a person will jump in front of a bullet to save the other person. This is crazy, and is also the ultimate sacrifice a person can make. At this moment, all selfishness is removed from your emotions. You do not value your own life as much as you do theirs, so you die to save them.
When I was younger and naive, I had imagined love as something magical that no one can ever take away from my soul. Thinking back, a decade later, I still think the same. No one can ever take away how much love there is in my soul for you. As long as there is respect and equilibrium in the factors of selfishness and selflessness in our relationship, I will give you my everything because you are the only one who can give me enough courage to even think about giving it my all. You know that I always do what you say or ask, and I know that you always want to see me happy, but I will never let you die for me. Instead, I will die for you. Love will diminish all negative feelings I have right now, I know it.
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This is very much unedited, excuse the many mistakes I know I have made. I will try to fix them some other time.
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This is a good essay on what you believe is love.
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I think most people reach a point where they have both contemplated "love" and even come to some conclusions about it. This is also a topic on which many, many authors, great and small have pondered and written. Therefore, I would honestly try to couch any "instructive" sentiments you may have in something a little less pedantic and didactic. A story for example...one that would, through an incident, an episode and a couple of characters, reflect and reveal what you are feeling and thinking. In other words, try another form. PLUS...this is a little careless...wouldn't you say? And when you write something...if you don't care...why should the reader...whom you are asking to take the time to read your piece? At least...make sure the opening paragraph is perfect and certainly readable. For example: "the most selfless act that one can DO..." You mean that "one can PERFORM." You don't "DO" love. Then you have: "do not get jump to conclusions..." What does that mean? Was it just careless?
Be careful,
Good luck,
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very nice and sweet.... but love hurts too.. when this blind trust u have on the other person tht he/she loves u is broken....and tht person stops caring for u at all....
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Yes i have to agree with the last comment feels like you are reading from there personal diary , the character is awesome overall well written piece good work
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Very good character- seems like I'm reading thise out of their diary or something.
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Wow.
Very good peice describing love.
It's something that I must confess, I don't think on enough.
One read isn't enough, but needs to be read and pondered on and read again.
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Wow! I agree how selfishness and selflessness go hand and hand. Great write, good job!
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Very, very well written!
A good explanation of love!
Good job
beginning: 5, language: 5, plot: 4, ending: 5, dialog: 1, characters: 4.
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