Being in love, married, having a baby... Sounds great to most people. But, what if those three things, aren't really what they seem? Or belong to the same couple? Have I confused you yet? I'll explain. 1
My marriage was going to hell fast, and nothing, not even going to counseling was helping. I worked as much as I could to get away from the fighting and drank pretty heavy at times. I thought staying for my kids was the right decision. They had a mom and a dad, even if they were never both there at the same time. I thought every thing would be fine the way it was.. 2
Then I met him.3
Not at all my type, I never thought twice about how things developed between us. He was innocent, I was married with two kids, and working as a stripper. He was an officer in the military. Being around me could lose him his job, and everything he worked for. Especially as my 'husband' was in the military also.4
But things did develop as time went by. I had finally got the nerve to leave my husband and moved cross country to be move in with a friend. I thought it would be easy, get a job dancing at night, take care of my kids during the day. But it's really hard to get a job when you have no sitter. And it's even harder to get a sitter when you have no money. It became a vicious cycle, and through it all, he was taking care of me and my kids. He had given me a card to access an account. He put money in it, so that my kids could have Christmas. Their own dad, he barely pays child support now, even.5
After being there for a few months, we decided to move in together. He was already supporting us, so it made sense. We knew it was a big chance we were taking, but we figured, you can't always hold back, just cause the stakes are high.6
That was in March. Now, my divorce still hasn't gone through. And we are expecting a baby girl next March. We're in love, and are happy about the baby. We just wish it him that I was married to..7
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This is a true story.. Whether that's good or bad, not sure, but here it is..
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Aw girly! Thank you for sharing your story! I think that most of us at some point in our lives have made choices that maybe were not the greatest....but we all make mistakes, we are human. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do to get by either financially or emotionally. Sounds like everything is on the right track...just need that divorce....hope that happens! Congratulations on your impending arrival and the best of luck with your new family!!
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You choose and make your family.
this is incredibly written. I like your style and syntax.
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It takes a real man to care for a woman's children when they are not his, and to even provide Christmas for them...talk about a holiday miracle. This is proof that yet again, true family doesn't need to be related by blood, and marraige is what you make of it, and apparently your first jhusband didn't make it good.
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OMG OMG OMG A GIRL!!!! OMG OMG I'm jumping up and down here! I wish you two the best happiness darling and you know I don't want any less for you and the kidlets
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I've been there myself... one dancer to another. I felt this to my core... well expressed. I finally got married about five months before the baby was born. In our case it was his ex that was holding things up for us. Can't dance when you're pregnant. I wish you the best.
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I'm so happy you found someone who is kind, gracious, and loving big sis
just reading this helps me know you better and I'm glad you wrote this. I hope things get better sis, love you lots~
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well , it was bad and good in the story
sorry about your first marriage didn't work out as ur thought. The guy who u are in love now seems like a good man so go ahead with him that is the better way Good pic on here and congratulation about the baby too! Wish ya all the luck Always love ya , ur friend
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