View on love

Anyone notice how easily people fall in love? I know I'm not one to talk. But I'm a bit through with falling in love so quickly, approaching love with more precaution. Everyone does actually, but not right now sometimes we have to but love (as in couple love) aside. We're far too young and simple-minded to actually KNOW what we want in life, we still don't have the experience that our parents have. I believe the friendships that we have are enough love for now. Everyone can go on and continue falling in love and dating, just don't think that so and so is "The one I'm going to marry".1

One of the biggest reasons on why relationships don't work are simple. We don't know what were looking for So if we can't really know what we want from ourselves how can we know what we want from a person? Quite frankly most of us are far too immature both body and mind to be in relationships. Some people shouldn't marry and have kids. Some people such as myself are far too emotionally delicate to be in a marriage, some of us may already be older but we still are lost on the path of life, we know what we want in a special someone, but yet we don't know who we are.2

But, lets be realistic here. . . We're human beings, we're NEVER satisfied with what we have, never satisfied with the love that our parents give us, and never satisfied with the love our friends give us, because we're selfish and we need to know how many people can love us. We find that outside source called 'relationships' to see if that outside source can fill our selfish desires of being loved, all in all. . . It never works out because human beings are selfish.3

People look for relationships as a one moment thing. You didn't want anything to bad happen but wake up and be real! Relationships are meant to be screw-ups! Its a smack across the face to see what we truly want, its an experience of what to avoid. We don't see relationships as how they are, we just paint it the color of rose and sugar.4

Part of the illusion we have of love is by the media, when we're little girls. . . all the movies are of a princess and prince, and its always "and they lived happily ever after"; honestly it doesn't work like that. You go out and experiment with people, and you see what you want in someone.5

Look at everyone nowadays, divorce rates have tripled! There's more divorces than marriages. Why? Because they marry for money and false pretensions. Love shouldn't work that way although it does at times. 6

People say that its not love what's wrong, Its the people, quite frankly this is true. Love is strong and wonderful emotion, but we take the word love too seriously. We say we love so and so, but we may be confusing "Love" with "friendly love" or "admiration", one can't say that you're genuinely in love. Its a whole different emotion. Its more complicated, and more deep. . .7

Soulmates is another thing that's overrated; You're soulmate could be a human, or an animal (not in the form of bestiality). Don't just say so and so is my soulmate. That's not really true in most cases, a soulmate is someone you can really connect with on so many different levels, this person can tell what's wrong or the emotion you feel by pure instinct, this person has around 90% things in common with you, this may even inlcude looks and dreams.8

Don't be thrown by cheap and tawdry words and phrases such as " I think, you are such a heavenly and beautiful person." chances are its fake. Believe me. . . That phrase is something true thats happened to me, turns out; it was just "99% true and 1% false".9

Don't trust your supposed best friend that much either! Sooner or later, when you're telling him/her how AMAZING this person is, eventually your supposed best friend would want to meet him/her and it takes two to tango, two to marry not three. And what happens? Ultimately the best friend betrays and steals your lover away.10

Another thing that shouldn't be done is. . . getting pregnant at a young age. There's a LOT of young mothers who are still high schoolers and they're MOTHERS at a tender age, teenagers we still have no clue how life works, how to take care of ourselves and now we have to take care of a BABY? When you have just recently started life? Being a teenage mother and a student is a difficult thing, and these mothers end up giving their child(ren) up to their parents meanwhile they are out enjoy the rest of their teenage life, shouldn't these mothers be taking care of their child instead?11

I truly admire those who have been married for 90 maybe 100 years. These people have found something everlasting and tender. They have the enough experience of being heart-broken and torn apart by someone. And the people how they are married to can be considered to be their soulmates.