My name is Miranda. I am 18 years old. I blow out my candles on October 16th. On June 9th I had a beautiful baby boy. His name is dakotah james and he is my world. His biologogical father is not in his life nor mine. He was abusive when we were dating so I made the choice to leave him at 2 months pregnant. I believe it was the best desicion I made. When Dakotah was 2 weeks old,I had my mother bring me to where my son's father lives. It was stressful for me but I thought maybe him seeing his son would make him realize to grow up and step up. He said he would but as the weeks went by he was unheard of. So I finally got my child support papers filled them out and turned them in. He found out about it and is now denying he is the father. I'm not sure if any of you have been in an abusive relationship but life for me was hell. I would work while he stayed home because he didn't want to work. I was only allowed outside the house with him only. I couldnt stay with friends,call,text,etc. If I did I would be put down with him telling me how much of a "whore" I was and how I was "cheating" on him. So for him denying this beautiful baby hurts me. Granted I could care less to see him but Dakotah can't defend himself and I feel like a bad mom. I don't know exactly why but I never finished school and still live at home. I am trying sooo hard to get a job so I can pay for a GED and then college. I want my son to have whatever he needs. I want him to grow up in a good enviroment. I hope this court thing gets done and as soon as possible so at this stage of life Dakotah don't have to go through everything. I will give him a chance when he gets older to see his father but unless his father helps take care of him, I won't let him see dakotah. why should he be rewarded for anything? I went through the pregnancy alone and have raised him these past 2 months by myself and I think I have done a good job. But anyways I have to get ready for a job interview so I will write mor later.
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Good luck with your interview!!!!
I'm sorry your baby's dad is being a creep but on the positive side, at least he flaked early instead of waiting until your sn was 8 or 9 and breaking his heart. It may be a relief that his cotrlling ways won't effect your son.
It sounds like he needs some serius growing up to do.
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"My name is Miranda. I am 18 years old. I blow out my candles on October 16th. On June 9th I had a beautiful baby boy. His name is Dakotah James and he is my world. His biological father is not in his life nor mine. He was abusive when we were dating so I made the choice to leave him at 2 months pregnant. I believe it was the best decision I made." I'm so sorry he was abusive. And I'm so so sorry Dakotah doesn't have a father. "I'm not sure if any of you have been in an abusive relationship but life for me was hell. I would work while he stayed home because he didn't want to work. I was only allowed outside the house with him only. I couldnt stay with friends,call,text,etc. If I did I would be put down with him telling me how much of a "
" I was and how I was "cheating" on him." I'm sorry that the father of your son was acting like this. I've never been in a relationship to begin with, but I know what it's like to have your idol's smack you in the back of your head, cuss, spit, sneer, lie, yell--the whole nine yards at you. You may be older than me but, being a mother isn't easy. I know by my own mom. She was seventeen when she had her first son, and eighteen when she had me and my twin. You're not a bad mom. I know you aren't. Wanting what is best for child to a mother is like wanting to keep her life. I'm sorry things are stressful on you, but look on the bright side, you a have a beautiful baby boy, one you can love, cherish, and hold close to you in times of need. Life is like a jump rope. It goes up and down. I'm happy for you, for your child on having such a loving mother. I'm happy for you that you can love someone when you've been through so much. I pity you for you past with the father. I pity your son for his father not being there. Things go up and down. Do your best to keep up, and hold your head up high. You're worth the praise in every way. *Smiles.* I'm on your side.
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