One needs do devote a lot of time to children, those little people. Always answer their questions, because children have a right to know and it is a possible to answer all their questions. We must not be ashamed if we don’t know the answer. We can tell them that truthfully and admit it. Let’s say that together we’ll look it up in a book and find the answer. Don’t make fun of their questions and thoughts. If we’re tired and irritable, we can plead with the child to be patient and we will look it up together another time, but we must not’t forget. It might slip your mind, but the child will never forgot. Never. Don’t ever compare your child with another. Other children are not better, just different. Your child is your only, even he or she is different. It isn't’t even your picture. It is simply a small person, whom we have to help to grow up.1
I know that this is often hard and it is not said in vain that being a parent is the hardest job in the world. And the most responsible. We shouldn't’t expect payment, because these small people didn't’t ask to come into the world. They had no choice. We alone made them. And don’t think that we never make mistakes. The worst people are those who think they’re always right.2
And never, never say, “It’s easy being the child.”3
Remember – you were one, too.4
And you, children, don’t be cross that I call you small people. You ask me if you will become big people. Yes, you will grow up. Don’t think that’s very important. It is just as important to be a child. Even more important. Because you are now growing and learning, in order that you know more and be better than your parents. Perhaps not all will succeed in this, but in front of you are years of possibilities.5
Author notes
Translation of Introduction to the children's story in Croatian (partial): Tajna ima krila - Secret has wings.
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It is just as important to be a child. Even more important. Because you are now growing and learning, in order that you know more and be better than your parents
Perhaps this can be a text for dictation both in Croatia and elsewhere in the world ... with homework for the parents that don't follow your advice .. -
From unknown reason Joe Spencer comment wasn't here. I make a copy from sistem message site:
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Joe Spencer (im) made a comment on Secret has wings (Advice to parents) (reply):
'There are many of possibilities in life, opportunities and vocations to pursue and, if one is lucky, make their life’s work. Some wish to be a shortstop for the Yankees; others covet the life of a rock star. Personally, I chase my dreams of becoming a paid writer who makes his very living stringing words together for the amusement, or derision, of others. I’ve wanted to be many t of things in my life. When asked in grade school, I wanted to be an Garbage Man. In hormonal adolescence the carefree life of your wrestling superstar seemed like a legitimate concern worth looking into, relatively understandable for a curious teenage male. Fortunately wisdom eventually arises from the ashes of disappointment and disillusionment and more realistic goals are considered. I may not make my living as a writer yet, but I’d rather die chasing a dream than living an immortal life without any left to realize. Good write. -
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Thanks Joe for your comment.
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Thank you Katie for your time to read this work and for your precious comment
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Excellent piece of writing
How true your words are Sonja, they say it is a 20 year committment bringing up a child, even then, their problems become your problems, even though they may fly the nest, the love we have for them is always there, it never goes away. As they grow up, we do out best to teach them wise and beneficial ways, we then hope they will be able to practice what they have learnt in order to make their way successful! the problems have become more difficult in modern times, yet the principals will always be there to guide them!
I did enjoy reading this
~Katie
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Children are much intelligent than we think... I whole heartedly agree with you sonja on the content of this column... thanx for sharing...
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Dear Brian, thank you. As I said, to be a parent is a very hard job, but to be a kid could be much more.
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as parents...we learn as we teach our children...we learn thier hurts and fears.....their joys and sorrows....we take pride in what they do....what hey accomplish...no matter how small the task....patience with a child is rewarding.....brian......
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Thank you for your kind comment my dear friend.
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Thank you, Sonja, for sharing this piece with us. Children are a precious resource, and are to be nurtured and cherished. As a former teaacher, I agree strongly that we must answer their questions, admit it when we can't, and help them find answers.
You are learning to express yourself in English, so of course there are a few glitches, but I applaud the effort, and we only learn by doing, Write on!
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Hi Sonja. This was interesting to read. Children are the future, and we need to remember that they are not tiny adults, but that there are stages of development, and no one can skip any of those stages. Children also repeat what they see and hear and learn, so it is good to be wise and adept parents. You present a good case for both parents and children in this essay. Meanwhile, I can see where English is not your first language, and it is difficult to translate, as we cannot say certain things verbatim in such case. I work in French also, and it is a difficult task for me to translate well into French, even if it was actually my first language. This piece needs a little work here and there, but you are on a learning journey also, and it will all fall into place in time. Thank you again for writing and posting this.
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