My reason why men should be shot...or at least made to think that they will be shot

It has taken me a longggggg time to be able to come out and talk about this with someone other than friends and I won't give too many details. This is to protect the idiots. And yes, indeed, men are the bulk of that group.1

Oh you feel I'm lying?2

Ok picture this, Sicily 1965...Nah nah. Seriously. Picture this.3

You have been in a relationship with a guy for the past 4 years. All things being equal, you have had your ups and downs but you figure "what the hey, we're stronger now!" 4

Well, if you were watching a movie of yourself doing this, do you know what you would shout at the point?? WRONG!!! I mean 'cause everyone know from the time you start thinking things when it concerns men, you will have doom just waiting to happen.5

So this day in question you go to meet him where he is hanging out. The previous day you all got into a tiny tiff- by tiny I mean would normally blow off in a couple of hours. 6

So you are still with me, right? Let's recap to ensure that you are. 4 years. Tiny tiff day before. Next day. Great! You are up to speed, which is more than you will be in a bit.7

A fair amount of his friends are there and it's in the middle of town. So you sit next to him, talking and what not. Then you realise he is not really replying like he usually does. Then his mobile phone rings. You stop talking, allowing him to get the call and you hear him telling someone where he is, that he'll still be there if they come soon...and then he says "BYE BABY!"8

Okay. Now I'm sure you must be thinking 'yeah that is a indicator right there of something being wrong'...but it's not actually. Because this particular guy in question calls everyone 'baby', well except his guy friends. 9

So then he turns to you and tells you 'oh how his other woman is coming there by where he is and don't let it turn into any argument or anything like that.' And of course you are like "WHAT THE HELL?! YOU ARE IS NOT SERIOUS!" You are so shocked your english grammar goes to pot. After all, this was the same guy that told you to get rings when you went overseas because he wants to marry you.10

So you move away a bit and go to talk to one of his friends, and his friend confirms the fact that he does have another woman and asks you if you are going to cry. Of course you being the 'big' woman that you are, you say no and blink them back.11

Then this girl shows up. She's younger than you and she has a friend her by the same name. So you watch him greet her, and then you go back near him. He doesn't introduce you. You introduce yourself and being the woman you are you tell her that you don't mind her being his other woman. You say this 'cause this has thrown you for a loop and all you are thinking about is not losing him. She tells you that they are just friends and he looks out for her. (YEAH RIGHT!!!) 12

He tries to kiss her in front your face but she is busy doing some assignment so she kind of ignores him. Inside you are slowly breaking but you blink back the tears and keep smiling. 13

I'm sure you would be saying to your screen self right now "SLAP HIM OVER HIS HEAD OR SOMETHING! HIT HER ALREADY!" Alas, your screen self can't hear and continues on.14

So to make sure you are still with the story so far, we'll recap again. Other woman. Younger. Suddenly shows up. I think that about covers it.15

So back to our regularly scheduled programming. So you move back over to where his friend is talking to a police officer that patrols where you usually hang out. And he tells you that the officer asked him, if you were not the gf and if that other new younger girl isn't the one he was trying to get with. Of course, you following from before say "I ain't bothered." And you move back by her, since he has gone to get drinks or something of that manner, and you tell her not to worry that you don't deal with the woman you deal with the man- you will later regret this but hey this now, that is later. 16

So you go back talking to him, assuring him it's okay if he has another woman and, HORROR OF HORRORS, you find yourself sort of bribing him with a promise of some gift. You only realise you did this afterward. But You know you did it so as not to be the one pushed out. 17

So the story up to this point is that your boyfriend, who you thought had made a committment to you so far as becoming pre-engaged as it were has sprung on you 'another woman'. And not only has he done this, he does it IN A PUBLIC PLACE! So that every one can revel in your humiliation.18

So you are still picturing this here, right? Okay, You leave to go back to class because you really don't know what you are doing there anyhow and you need to get away to sort yourself out. When you get on the bus, he calls asking you about what you told her(Remember I said you will regret this later? Well, this is where it comes to bite you in the backside!) She has told him what you said and he is all angry with you and tells you not to call and that you did foolishness. And all you can say into your cellphone is "I didn't mean to do it, I didn't mean to do it. I'm sorry. She took it the wrong way." All the while trying to hide your tears from the rest of students on the shuttle. He hangs up. You break down. Later that evening you drive far away from where you are, wasting money on gas, to get by his friend where you know he might go. You just miss him. And when you call his friend's phone you find out he has been looking at the phone ring and when your number comes up, continues to look at it until it stops ringing.19

I think I'm going to end the telling of this tale and the picturing right here 'cause this is not the end of this story, unfortunately. I should know 'cause it's my story and that is but one chapter in that relationship. I look back now and all I can think is that I was such an idiot. I should have broken everything off there and then, and punched him for good measure. Okay, maybe I wouldn't have punched him, but still, as they say 'It's the thought that counts!" 20

I can't believe I allowed myself to do that stuff and more in trying to get him back to me and only me. I figured it had to be at me why he "roamed", that I was the only who had done something wrong. 21

But then after all that I kind of found out that he may have been cheating on me on several occasions during the four years. 22

While I certainly didn't want the hurt that came from that lesson, I'm kind of glad it came. 'Cause now I'll never allow someone to walk all over me and I will NEVER sink to the depths that I did. Hey, it does make it harder because he has reduced my trust in men. And because of him I think the men should be lined up and made to think they will be shot if they do stupid things, or shot if they do(well not really, we still need them for procreation). 23

So this has besically shown me two things. Females, if he is doing foolishness you be woman enough to walk away if he showing no signs of remorse or of changing. Don't lower yourself for him. Make him rise up to meet you.24

And men, see what happens when you do folly? You ruin it for your half of the species. Smart move!25