Cute Guys With No Self Esteem = Frustrating

I know so many cute guys who, for some reason, don't feel that they deserve to find happiness when it comes to love and relationships. My two best guy friends fall so easily into this category and it's so frustrating, especially since I like them as more than friends. However, other girls that I know also find these boys attractive: yet one still mopes about how he's too afraid to ask any girls out, and the other is considering going back out with an ex-girlfriend who broke their engagement by confessing to sleeping with another guy. 1

What's even worse about this whole situation is that no-one can believe that these guys, or other guys like them, could possibly have such low self-esteem about themselves. For some reason, people feel that only girls can feel this way about themselves. Yet, the horrible and realistic truth is that even cute, gorgeous, and awesome guys feel this way about themselves. My one friend lives for the gym; he has an amazing body and one of those chiseled faces that look like they're human versions of the Ancient Greek statues of heroes and gods. Basically, he's just gorgeous. The other one is half-Italian, half-Filipino, has the most amazing smile and eyes, and plays in a ska band. He's extremely easy to talk to and can have the most amazing conversations with you about absolutely nothing. They're both awesome people that deserve someone special, yet they keep falling for these girls that hurt them or, worse, they break up with girls who are so good for them; however, when the guys realize how close they're getting to these girls, they end the relationship, afraid that they're just going to hurt that girl.2

They're the most frustrating people I know. They seem to have this horribly dense mind-set about their physical appearance and what they can offer in a relationship. What is even more frustrating about them is that they are aware of their insecurities. Whereas other guys love to talk about hoe awesome they are, the kind of guys I'm ranting about seem to have monopolized the market on insulting themselves. If I casually mention that I know a girl that the guy should meet, I get a reply like, "Why should I bother? She's just going to think I'm ugly" or "Don't even bother. She's probably way too good for me." When I hear these kind of statements from these guys, especially my good guy friends, I just want to smack them. Unfortunately, they would probably take my slap as a reinforcement of how they feel themselves. UGH!!!!!!!!!!3

Hopefully, someone will read this rant and, understanding what the hell I'm talking about, will invent a pill that I can give to cute but insecure guys, so that they can realize how much they have to offer and that they do indeed deserve true love. Until then, hopefully some guys (maybe even my friends!) will read this and begin to understand that, if they want to overcome their self-doubts and barriers so that they can begin to like themselves and/or find the most amazing love of their lives, they need to break them down themselves.4

Thank you.