So you're 14 years old and want to know why women are so complicated? I have to be careful how I word things then. 1
Women, up until last century, right around the sexual revolution in the late 60's were "submissive" to men. It was great, in the sense that women cooked, clean and took care of their man. The men went to work, and the women stayed home, with a few exceptions of course. Now, as a result of the civil rights, the sexual revolution, women have said "enough". Women are joining the work force, contribute to the household expenses, and basically demand more from their men. Also, there is an increase of single mothers. 2
The problem with single mothers is...well, let's say a huge problem. Men are castrated by their angry bitter moms. They are told that men are evil, sexual perverts, are a-holes, jerks, good-for-nothing, dead beats, and on and on. So boys don't want to be all those bad things that mom talks about dad. So we have a surplus of "wussy" men. They don't take charge at all, allow women to run their lives, feel worthless, and in the long run men begin to resent women. 3
On the other hand though, women basically want men to take them out, and buy their dinner, pay for the movies, drinks, and anything they desire in exchange for.....??? Some women will have sex by the third date, some by the first or second, but most, and I'm speaking general here, will not. Men just go out with women, and I'm generalizing again, to get into your panties. So when we have to jump through hoops, and beg and plead, well, men will start complaining. The bad boy is always the one getting all the girls, right? So men think that if they buy girls/women things that they will get what the bad boy gets. girls and sex. But that is not the case. I've been on both sides of the coin. Both the good boy and the bad boy. As a bad boy I didn't complain about women being complicated. I got what I wanted. As a good boy, a nice guy, all I ever got was, "you're so nice. It's like being with my brother." The bigger the a-hole I was, the more girls I got. I set rules and expectations about what I wanted, and what I didn't want. What I would put up with, and what I wouldn't. And guess what? Women were not complicated at that point. When they started with their drama, I cut them off. 4
Women, from what I see, are not very satisfied with how they look. Always changing their hair, make up, purses, shoes....and who needs that many shoes, and purses? Why? Take a look at who is getting plastic surgery. Women. Botox, breast implants, tummy tucks, on and on. And there is the shopping. Women take hours, while men, well, we go in buy what we went in for, and leave, with that one item we wanted to buy. Women...well, they buys things they don't need. When you bring that into a relationship, well, think of the drama.
Women look at men like science experiments. I was once in the lunch room, having lunch with co-workers, who I might add are all women, and they were talking about their relationships...mainly their husbands. One particular co-worker said, after several comments from the other women, "if only we can take our husbands apart like a machine, then put them together the way we want to, with all the qualities WE want." I simply stated, "maybe you're with the wrong guy", got up and walked away. Women constantly nag about us watching sports. Sports! But how many shows are geared toward women? Think of all the reality shows. Who watches them? That's all I hear at work. Reality show this, reality show that..britney this, Britney that. Women want to change the way we dress, the way we behave, saying we are immature because we like to have fun. Men are not that complicated. We really just want a few things from our wives, girlfriends, living in girlfriends: 1. don't get fat 2. make us a warm meal without complaining or telling us, "you got two hands and two feet, do it yourself." 3. long hair (we don't want to feel like we are dating a guy) 4. sex often 5. don't try to change us (if you are trying and are unhappy with how we are, then get yourself someone else.) 6. if you need to have girls' night out, then really, be alone, without a boyfriend/husband. You know how many women I had flings with who were on a "girls' night out"? I'd say about 90% of them had someone waiting at home. 5
Now, if the guy turns out to be abusive, leave. Don't think about it, or say, "but I love him." Just leave. If he begins to control you at the begining, leave him. If he begins to tell you, I love you, I can't leave without you, why do you need to have guy friends or why do you need to be with them (family and friends) all the time. that's sure sign he will abuse and control you. Well, I hope this was a little helpful, and not offensive. I'm mainly offering a point of view that men hardly, or really, will not share.
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wow, you spoke my mind, man. As far as what the last person commented, i think chicks just say they want to "save thereselves" just to avoid it. I think that if she loves you she wont want to wait.
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I agree with the person who commented before me. Women should be able to work. We don't want to just stay home and cook and clean and stuff. My mother's whole side of the family is like that. They never went to college. They never had a career. All they did was get married, become a housewife, and have kids. Women shouldn't be stuck at home. We deserve to work.
I agree on the pre marital sex thing too. It's a good thing to wait for marriage. If you wait until marriage, then you don't give it up to someone who might not even love you. If they love you, they will wait.
Your tips with men are helpful and the requests are not unreasonable. You have a very interesting and honest viewpoint on this situation. It's a very interesting arguement. Good luck in the contest you entered! -
I think that 90% of women would say that they're nothing like the when you described and that entertains me because I disagree with a lot of them.
first of all, I am a feminist. Women should be able to work, vote, and have the same rights as men. But I think a lot of "feminists" take it too far. Then again I can be very old fashioned.
Pre-marital sex isn't something that's I'm willingly going to engage in, I'm sorry, guys, but that's just the way I am. And as far as marriage goes, I would want my husband to be the head of the household. I want to be able to pursue my own interests (and you didn't say you had anything against that), but my family comes first. My mother has her own career now, but when I was a child she stayed home and raised me. That's something I would like to do and feel that a woman should do, but unfortunately the ecomony doesn't allow for it. As a woman, I would want to cook and keep the house clean, but I do think it's important for men to realize that women who work are busy and to help out where they can. For me, one of the central ideas of a relationship is two people helping and supporting each other.
I enjoyed reading your opinion and if you took the time to actually read mine, even though you didn't ask for it, then I thank you. I do agree that women are far more complicated than they have any right to be, but I know lots of guys who are the same way. Thank you for sharing your opinion.
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if i've learned anything about relationships in my short 14 year old life, its that its give and take. she can expect things from you just like you expect things from her. we as men won't always fullfill the expectations, and women aren't perfect either. it takes work to build a successful relationshiip, and no one ever said it was easy. but, when relationships really do work out, then you, both of you, have done something courageous and of character. its all about finding a balance. i enjoyed reading this and agreed with nearly all of your opinions. good luck.
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It sounds like men are just really angry that women expect you (men) to be more than useless lumps.
In our failing economy, it is completely impossible to survive on a one-person income when you have a family and a house, so women not only WANT to work, but we're expected to. And on top of that, men want us to feed them, take care of the kids, clean the house, and practically be their mothers while they watch TV and absorb themselves in whatever wonders their XBOX360 feeds them.
I'm no feminist, but the things some men expect from us (women) on a daily basis are just silly. Essentially, a lot of men I've met expect to walk around like barbaric simple cavemen while the women endorse that behavior to ensure their stupidity lives on. -
I'm a girl, femininists in my opinion need to learn when the fight is over, and I thought it was over already. I can vote, I can work, I can choose to cook and clean when I feel like it, I'm so incredibly grateful to the women and kind-hearted guys of the past who acheived all of that for me that I don't see the point in cheapening their struggle by exploding each time a fella with your kind of views crops up.
You told that woman she was with the wrong guy, maybe you're meeting the wrong women. The ones you talk about here are such pains!
I feel so very, very lucky that I have never met a single girl like the ones you describe here. And that my single mother is not bitter and resentful, but was supportive of my sister's engagement, of my brother when he moved in with his girlfriend, and is reassuring when I have boy troubles.
You must either have awful luck, or a very powerful imagination, sir. You certainly have guts, and I admire that you would publish such a contraversial opinion when there are doubtlessly some feminist writers on this site. I'll applaud that, and I'll applaud your opinions in general, they're certainly unique in this day and age. -
very interesting .... i agree with this totally! The topic you've chosen is actually a big subject matter and majority might not even agree. .but i say hats off to you and your courage for saying whats on your mind!!
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We're all human and we should all have the same rights as each other. I agree with what you say about a guy being abusive; she should leave if they're abusive. But if their partners have the mind set that you have demonstrated here, then she should leave then too! Abuse is not just physical abuse, it can be mental too. When men are controlling over a certain extent that is called domestic violence.
Why should she have to stay home and cook and why should the man be the head of the house? In my eyes this is primitive for a man to expect this (unless that is what she wants too). It's not the caveman days anymore. The man needed to be head of house then because they had a naturally stronger build and could hunt and the such.
Nowadays it doesn't have to be like that. We live in an age where your physical ability is not so important anymore; your brains are. Woman rose to the challenge, they don't need a big strong guy to provide for them anymore. And in my eyes this is the way it should be.
If someone does try to change the way you are, then they're probably not right for you; but what you need to realise is that this works both ways. You seem to want to change woman to have the looks that you want them to have and possibly into something they don't want to be. This is actually called changing someone, believe it or not.
And if you believe they shop too much, why don't we have the right to believe that you watch sport too much.
If you say my comment is disrespectful and rude, well then good luck with all the other people who believe in equality as I do, and I wouldn't expect them to be so polite.
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Very interesting read. I suppose that I am not like the women you have written about though. I loathe TV reality shows and am like a guy while shopping. I go in there to get what I need and am out of there. While some of the things that you wrote I agreed with (mainly the part about the man being the head of the house and the woman under him), at the same time I noticed that you expect qualities in a woman as well (listing the numbers at the end of the fifth paragraph). A few things?
1. You telling a woman to not get fat is the same as women saying they want their husbands to build muscle.
2. I don't have any issues against a woman cooking a meal but if she's sitting at the dinner table she doesn't want to hear "Can you get me some more coke" "Can you get me some more potatoes? Napkins?"
3. Asking a woman to have long hair is like asking her to look or dress the way that you WANT her too. Women want to be able to feel free to choose a style that they like.
4. I wouldn't see where sex would be a problem as long as man is loving toward his woman. If he has sex then rolls out of bed afterward to go watch TV that kind of lands the woman in an upset state..as well as thinking that her man doesn't love her.
5. So..it's ok for you to say that you want a woman with long hair, to not be fat, to spend all their time for you, and cook your meals yet..you would consider leaving them if they tried to change you? Makes sense.
6. Well, women like hanging with their friends as well so just remember the next time she complains about you watching the Superbowl remember that she needs her free time as well.
Hey man that was a very interesting read and I like your opinions. May not agree with all of them but I like hearing what people have to say on specific matters. I meant no offence, didn't get offended myself, and enjoyed reading what you wrote. Peace!
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