I have to say after being in several relationships where I was 'In Love'. To me there is a lot involved in a lasting love. Of course LOVE is the main thing.1
My needs are pretty straight forward. I need to be appreciated for what I have done and so too my dreams for the future.2
Acceptance is a key issue. Not trying to change a person because they do not fit in with what you think is the 'norm'. Everyone is different and should be loved for who they are, not for who you want them to be.3
Trust is another biggie. No matter who they talk to or flirt with. They are with you because they choose to be. 4
Honesty is essential. If you can't be honest with your partner something majorly is wrong.5
Jealousy is only a reaction to yourself feeling inadequate and insecure. It also comes hand in hand with trust.6
You need communication. Without it you will never truly know the other person or they you.7
Physical and verbal affection is needed. If you don't have it you feel insecure.8
I would have to say my life time partner would love me unconditionally. He would accept both me and my love without any doubts.9
He would be there to protect and support me with anything that happened in my life and accepted my protection and support when needed during his.10
He would allow me to be myself and not see me as a possession by trying to change me or become jealous for his insecurities and realise that it's what I give to him and appreciate it.11
We would be friends and be able to talk about numerous subjects and have our own opinions. Be able to discuss anything no matter how hard a topic.12
We would have fun and laughter be able to joke with and tease each other without fear of retribution.13
I would be able to learn from him and he learn from me.14
He would never abuse me in any way and wouldn't stand for me abusing him.15
He would be faithful and never push flirtations past the realms of decency as I wouldn't to him.16
He would show me in small ways he wanted to be with me. By a smile, a kiss, a touch or words everyday. 17
And most of all he would respect me.18
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hmm..
well written.
i have this.
my partner is exactly how you explain.
prehaps that is why he is your son.
i think he has learnt from the best; of how not to be.
he is the best partner in the world!
& i am so happy he chose me.
♥ jade
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I love your definition of being "In Love;" I doubt that is the only definition, and may not even come close to some people's definition. Some people, though, think that the woman is supposed to do everything that the partner wants done right when he are she wants it done. But mostly, it doesn't work that way. Thanks for a great read.
Deke -
Wonderful
A "simple touch can say so much", yet a few kind words can move mountains. Self-love is amust before you can share yuor life with others. Life is a work-in progress. Honesity is important is self evaluation. Thank you very much for the pleasure of reading your essay. -
You have been given 100 points for this entry in the contest "Does Love STILL Make The World Go Round?"
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Thank you Tawnya. Im glad I am too
Mia
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This is great and so true. I really like it. I'm glad you are happy now.
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I'm glad you do and knowing it you'll make some girl really happy. It would have to be one of the simplest ways of showing a person how much you care. Most of us have no problem with not hearing undying love and dont expect to hear I love you each day but a simple touch can say so much. thank you for your comments. Mia
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I know that this was short but it had a HUGE impact with your words. Every topic you covered I do feel is key to a wonderful loving relationship. I mimic your views about love. I want to thank you for taking the time and energy that was required for your entry in my contest Does Love STILL Make The World Go Round? Personally I have learned through my life experiences that women do have one thing in common. They all need attention. Some more than others, but it's something that guys need to realize. I finally do!
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Ted E.
PS: Just in case you forgot to send me your number, this is only a friendly reminder that I also need to receive it as an Instant Message to keep track for my records (a checks and balances deal). If you have done this then please disregard this friendly reminder. I have posted your number as being 172. -
What????? With children???????? Mia
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i don't think i have ever written such a great essay, this was excellent, you have once again shown us all what a real talent you have, have you ever considered being an english teacher, you'd be excellent til
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Thank you Jenn. And the best thing is I know what I want and deserve and it's given to me. Well most of it but it wouldn't be interesting if I got it all at once. Don't worry your special someone will be along soon Mia
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Mia, you have written a wonderful essay on what to expect in a relationship. I know from your Aunty Joan that you have come out of a bad marriage, but you are very happy now with BJ good luck.
jennifer
Edited on Jan 24, 6:21 because 'completely lost my name'.
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