Roses Are Red, Until They're Dead

Lately I've been thinking about roses--or just flowers in general, but roses had the advantage of a nice rhyme to go with it. It all started around Valentine's Day when my roommate bought a dozen carnations for his new (within two months) girlfriend.

I asked my girlfriend what the big deal was with flowers because she, as a woman (by default), likes flowers. She told me that it was a "symbol of love and affection" or something like that--the kind of sentiment that everything pretty and/or shiny given to a girl is supposed to hold.

First, let me backtrack and tell you what we got each other. She got me fudge (the good, expensive, delicious kind) and I made her a painted clay sculpture of our birds sitting together so that you can see a heart in the middle of them. Fudge is tasty, and the sculpture is strong enough to last for a good long while.

Roses on the other hand are a different animal. First off, they're expensive; second, you can't eat them; and third and most important of all, they die.

Seriously, how can something that withers and dies over time be a symbol of love and adoration? I've told Vicki that for this very reason, I will never buy her flowers. I feel it's like a bad omen: "Oh no, the present I got you to demonstrate my love for you a month ago is dead."

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  • iDifferent-
    July 29
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    Wow

    Interesting idea there. My mom always gets roses for Mother's Day, and they always die. You are very right. It does seem like a bad omen now that I think about it.

    Your thoughts intrigue (I'm not sure if that fits) me. I'd like to know more of your ideas, for they make a capturing topic.

    I'm going to start getting my mom something that will last... Or I'll make something for her.

    Thanks for the interesting journal,
    Suteki Banshou

  • Firetears
    June 9
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    Lol, you're right! But in Victorian times if you gave some one a type of flower, it would mean something. For example, I bet roses meant , "I love you", or something.

  • Yo-Yo
    April 26
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    U do have a point

    That is why I like the story of the intelligent man.

    There was this guy who gave his girlfriend a dozen roses. He said to her "Baby, I'll love you until the last rose dies." The girl was puzzled by this because she knew that flowers die but she took a closer look at the bouquet in her hand. One of the roses was a silk flower, the kind that never dies. And on that silk flower was an engagement ring tied on with a simple ribbon. The girl's eyes watered as she realized that her boyfriend had just proposed to her.

    Wow sorry to make that so long. See it's not really the flowers that girls like. Well at least I don't. I really do appreciate the thought, time and effort that is put into a gift.


  • DreamyAme
    April 14
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    I like your point. On the other hand, my POV is a bit different though. I'm a nature lover. I remember telling my roommate once upon a time, "if anyone would buy me flowers, they have to get them in pots, not stalks. Or don't bother; grow me a garden instead. I'd appreciate that better."

  • you have a very good point

    I do get your point I, for one, don't really like them (I might be allergic?)

    I think few women who are given flowers replant them... majority who receive them just love getting them, I guess It's not really about symbolism, I guess - maybe it's how one would invest money in something so ephemeral just to make another person happy? Maybe the flowers themselves are not the symbol, but the act of giving?

    or maybe I'm just idealistic

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